Hi Kate,
I pray for you my sister. I pray that you get the courage to go through your current life crisis. No amount of training, understanding and explanation can help you balance the sudden loss of someone so close to your heart, on whom you depended emotionally , physically and completely. He was your life as You were his.
Your love is so deep that your mind , body and emotions are unable to accept what has happened. There is nothing much you can do at this moment, as the event is too fresh, to hard to take , leaving you somehow alone and in the wild.
However, what can help you and no one and nothing can take it away from you, is the love you have for each other. I didn’t say the love you had, but the love you have as you still love him, may be more than when he was around. He also loves you the same way even though he is not around. His good words, specific guidance, charming memories will keep your love for him alive and will help you continue your life, loving him in his absence.
This incident will also bring some change in your life. You will have a deeper understanding on how to take things and view them around you. You have suddenly been awaken to the harsh truth of this world, which everyone knows but we can only fully realize, when faced with the stark truth , that we will all leave one day.
Slowly organise yourself , with your new reality, around your near ones or children if you have , hold them , feel them and continue living to your best, that would have made him proud. That is how you will continue to show , how much you love and care for him.
Kate, if you feel like crying from time to time , do it. That’s your deep emotions of missing him. Simultaneously feel his presence by doing things he way he would have love to see you getting along. As for yourself, remember to keep yourself strong and calm even pained inside . Live with grace , live with love. Keep being helpful and compassionate.
I truly hope you would soon be able to overcome your grief and shall you need any help , do let me know.
Wishing you courage my sister.
Neel
Neel is a Certified [UK] Life & Corporate Coach. He coaches online [1-1 & F2F] for recovering from personal or professional issues. For booking or queries, kindly email at info@neelconsultancy.com .